Today’s Crowdwish was ‘I wish that my friend would not have to face losing her home after the death of her husband’.
We completely appreciate that there are many, many people in the world faced with appalling sets of circumstances, and many incredible charities doing fantastic work to alleviate as far as possible the difficulties those people face.
So to be clear, we are not attempting to subjectively decide this is a more deserving case than any other; but it is one that has come to the top of the list on Crowdwish and so we are compelled to help, and happy to do so.
Whilst preserving the anonymity of the individual concerned, here’s the reality of their very difficult and delicate situation.
A woman is recovering from an abusive history; so abusive that she is suffering with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
For years she cares for her husband who has Multiple Sclerosis.
The small savings pot they had accumulated becomes rapidly depleted by unavoidable medical bills.
Her husband dies and her reason for being and daily purpose are shattered. With the savings gone, she can no longer afford the mortgage repayments.
The acute nature of the PTSD means that – despite her intelligence and ability – it is not viable for her to hold down a regular job and generate a consistent income.
Further complications relating to confusing state benefits mean that statutory welfare payments are not forthcoming.
The bank starts to get increasingly less tolerant and they send representatives to her house explaining that it must be repossessed.
The remaining ‘family’ that she has are two cats and a dog that she rescued from a shelter. Their companionship that has meant so much is jeopardised by the likely loss of the home, exacerbating her anxiety and underlying mental health issues.
It seems likely now that she will lose her house, but friends are rallying round to see whether they can work out a way in which she might be able to move into an apartment and get to keep her pets.
One of those friends – Fern Mulholland – put the wish on Crowdwish some weeks ago, and that’s how we got involved.
We have helped Fern set up a page on Gofundme – a brilliant site in the US that has had lots of success in raising money for people in stricken circumstances – explaining the situation as we have above and asking for donations for her friend. We have donated $250 to get things going, and Fern has made a generous contribution herself.
At Crowdwish, we are really grateful for the many, many emails and messages we receive from people asking how they can help with the wishes, make contributions, ‘give back’ and so forth; so we hope this will be an opportunity for people to do just that. Here’s the link again. Gofundme